Have you experienced sexual harassment, sexual assault, or sexism at your current or previous company? And if so, at which company and did HR fix the problem?
It gets complicated and there are always two sides to the same story
There are 3 sides to every story. What each person says(which is always subjective) + what actually happened(objectively).
How very postmodern. I’ll bet you listen to Jordan Peterson too.
What I posted is not a joke. Actually happened but I agree that women may face much worse and as a father of a girl that may work in the tech industry, this stuff has to stop.
I’m very sorry this happened to you. I thought you were mocking the question. No one should have to put up with that.
Not only as ‘the father of a girl’ but as a basic decent human being.
From a manager while eating lunch in the break room: “May I ask you a question? Are your breasts real? Because, wow!” From a director: [grabs my hand] “Come out with me.” Me: “No thanks, my husband made dinner for me tonight. I’m heading home.” Him: “I’m married, you’re married...who cares? Let’s go.” This is the same guy who leered at me so much that my (male) manager (also a great friend) noticed it and got pissed off. I’m pretty easygoing but damn.
Exactly. This is pretty typical behavior women have to deal with. Oh, and you’re expected to just not respond when it happens or you will be considered “difficult to work with” or “not a good company fit.” The threat of retaliation in some way is always there and it’s intimidating.
Yeah, talk about the horrible threat of retaliation when men have their careers destroyed by lying women. Poor you. Lol. Keep in mind all these cases have yet to reach court. There was a Canadian tv personality with 6 women accusing him, turns out he kept emails and text messages for last 15-20 years. All accusations easily dismissed as there was proof the women were willing. His career was still destroyed. I also don’t hear you talk about women who sexually harass men. In most states the law doesn’t even consider as a legal possibility. In how many states, a woman cannot be prosecuted for raping a man as it is not even written in a law?
I think only attractive people get sexually harassed.... So no.. never experienced it.
Sorry
You are sorry that I've never been sexually harassed? lol... Jk but nah, it's ok.
I was molested and sexually harassed by multiple women in the last 6 months .. Being a strong Asian male , I did not report to HR as I feel no action would be taken.. how to fix this ?
My Asian female manager started off 1 on 1 in the first few months commenting on my physique and feeling my arms, shoulders, saying how strong and masculine I was. What was I to do? I cannot reciprocate the advances and say anything to her as then she can accuse me of sexual assault. There is nowhere for a man to report anything to. I’m serious, by the way.
That’s really creepy. Of course a feminist will never admit that, mainly because they’re pseudointellectual liberal arts majors. Everyone gets a trophy folks! No matter how hard you work.
I wasn’t at my old job for very long but there was this one guy, a “Bro”, and we became drinking buddies. Him, his TL and our DIR used to go to the gym together and sometimes out for drinks. Good team. “Bro” used to be super inappropriate sometimes. Among other things he’d pretend to slap his dick on stuff like the desk or wall, say things like “what’s wrong, your labia sore?” And he called everyone “Girl” because he thought it was demeaning. I was asked to give a team member feedback on him and send it to his TL. I thought it was confidential so I put something good, something he could improve on and at the bottom I put “You know how he does that thing where he pretends to slap his, um, er, dick on everything? Yeah, I could really do without that”. I said it to be funny, and also, HOW DID THEY JUST LET HIM DO THAT!?!? Turns out, the form that I submitted wasn’t confidential and would be automatically put on his electronic employee record. Long story short, 3 weeks later I got a letter of reprimand for calling in sick after my start time ( Bro and I called in sick, I was legit sick and Bro was hungover)playing a phone game with Bro during a break at our desks and talking about being hungover with Bro. The letter was officially for “Poor Professional Appearance” Bro got a >10k raise+bonus and got to go to San Diego for a “work trip” It was HR that gave me the letter. They knew about the dick thing, too. QL Detroit - I found a new job with a 17k raise 6 months later so fuck that place.
"Bro" sounds like a dope dude which is probably why you didn't mind being drinking buddies with him.
And google here sounds like a dick that needs to be slapped around.
Yes.
Yes, I would get cat calls every time I came into work.
Not funny. It’s a serious issue many women in tech deal with everyday.
If your post is only directed at women perhaps you should specify in the question. Otherwise I recommend treating male sexual assault victims seriously