I don’t come on here very often, but almost every time I open this app there are at least a few threads with single people analyzing how relationships work and who women choose to settle down with or how people get laid. I won’t comment my view right away in the header because I think it’d give even more implicit bias than I already have. I’d consider my relationship successful, but I think I’ve forgotten what it’s actually like to be single, so I’m interested in hearing opinions from others.
Semi related: Black Mirror season 4 episode 4 has an interesting point of view on relationships :) Highly recommend watching
Every men and women is different. Everyone is trying to find a unique match that works for him or her. I don't hold any judgement on anyone since everyone has a unique journey. We should just be grateful that we're fortunate enough to have experienced both.
Totally agree. I didn’t make this thread to “judge the singles” or anything, and I can see why it came off that way (and I’m not saying you are accusing me of that either), but I am interested in hearing if people here think about where there is a more general journey to be had, or if there are any particular attributes to a relationship that people in successful relationships may not have realized until they were in one.
if 1+1 > 2, that’s a win for me. Basically if being in the relationship my life is better/easier than without.
Most singles I know are unhappy with themselves. And they aren’t themselves around those they see as potential hookups / partners. The people who do get together with people are the ones who are themselves.
There are many reasons people are single and many reasons people are in relationships, not all good or bad reasons.
A lot of folks don't even understand consent. How can they possibly function in a relationship?
An attribute of a successful relationship is when things get tough both parties decide to not give up on each other or the relationship. They choose to have hope and see good in each other.
Absolutely this. I think what makes my current relationship so much better than my previous ones is the fact that we actually talk during the rough times, and we both try to come to a mutual understanding of each other’s point of view and feelings.
I got married in my 30s to an intellectual equal who is also an engineer. Worked so far for us.
How is the sex?
Most singles are artificially limiting themselves and have unrealistic expectations on the others.
Don’t marry until you are > 30. Try to taste as many women as you can, otherwise this will eventually come up when you decide to settle
Define tasting.
Can’t say I completely agree, but I can absolutely see where you’re coming from.