Miscarriage while dealing with a mean boss
My friend had a miscarriage surgery in ER on a Friday morning and her boss still wants her to complete a project for the following Tuesday presentation. She had to work in the office on Sunday alone while bleeding for her boss to review on Monday. Boss gave her review comments at 10:30pm on Monday night and she cleared his comments until 3am!! Boss needs her to present the project in front of VP on Tuesday and didn’t let her take any time off work! No one knew what she went through in the whole department! I wanted to help her but don’t know how? So sad this thing happened at Adobe......
Does adobe offer short term disability? If so - tell her to get a note (I can't imagine a doctor NOT giving a note), this can't be contested if she has that note (and she won't have to say much if she does).
She should talk to this manager first. If she has no problem with doing the work then I wouldn't get involved. Perhaps she is overworking to mask the fact that something terrible has happened to her (working to keep her mind off of it).
I forgot to mention her husband called her boss while she was in ER . Her boss didn’t ask her to take days off, instead he offered to work with her in the office on Sunday to review her project! Of course her boss didn’t show up on Sunday and didn’t review her work until Monday evening.... that’s why I was furious to hear this
This is making me angry. HR needs to get involved, this manager needs to get written up. If my employee had any kind of surgery or medical issue of any kind I'd not be asking them to work! Plus this event must be incredibly tough on her and her husband. I'd give people the same leeway as if it were a death in the family. It may feel that way. Unbelievable!
Thanks for sharing the same anger as me! I wish someone can report this on her behalf but I need to respect her personal choice of keeping this tragedy to herself. That’s the exact reason I could only vent it here as I could not tell anyone at work!
Ridiculous if the boss knew about this and still did this. But she has to stand for herself before anyone else can pitch in.
Sorry for her loss. My wife had gone through this multiple times so I can empathize with her. As someone already said, if the boss is oblivious to the situation, then of course he'd want things to be in top shape for the VP meeting. Now, IF he insists on the work despite knowing then she should actually tell this to the VP (Maybe privately so there is less drama). The d&c is hard (physically and emotionally) and frankly (I am not a doctor) but she should take it easy the next few days. Eastern medicine suggests that chances of future miscarriage increases if rest isn't taken. But work can be a good distraction for some. Hugs to her.
Thanks for your note! She is shy and didn’t have the courage to talk to VP directly. She knew VP likes her boss’ work a lot so she didn’t want to risk her career. But I know her boss will continue taking advantage to her and slave drive her until she quits.
Excuse me but, either you are the person, trying to get advice in the third person, or this is a case of a person without backbone. All company guidance and rules about diversity and sick policies cannot resist stupidity. After the miscarriage, your friend or her husband should have called her boss and HR, communicated the event, and informed she was taking X days off on medical advice. Record the name of the HR contact, time and any other notes, turn off her phone, and that is it! I had male friends taking sick days for sport injuries, family issues and even "too drunk to work". women should stand up for themselves. They shouldn't have to call the Calvary for such easy situations!
Agreed other people can't fight these battles... people do need to advocate for themselves.
If you don't stand up for yourself why would anyone else do ot
Why didn't she just take 3 or 4 days of sick time? Get a doctor's note. Why didn't she do that?
This is just insane. Her boss should be fired. Your friend should sue, and leave adobe. Utter garbage how things went.
So sorry for her loss. Did she tell her boss about the miscarriage?
If boss doesn’t know you’re dealing with shot he can’t help. If he knows and still behaves like that -time to look for a new boss and leave feedback